He wants us to get married but we can't live together

Dear Coleen, I've been with my partner for a few years and we have no children. We tried living together, but it didn't work because we argued constantly.

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He's a neat freak - incredibly fussy about keeping the place tidy and clean, which is very unrelaxing. I'm not messy or dirty at all, but he just can't handle living with anyone because no one can meet his exacting standards.

I don't want to live somewhere I can't feel at home and where I'm always walking on eggshells and worried about spilling a cup of tea. So we have separate homes and stay over at each other's places (he mostly stays at mine).