Are your relationships draining you?

RELATIONSHIPS, whether platonic or romantic, have the power to uplift us and add depth to our lives. But what happens when a relationship becomes a source of stress rather than support?

- VUYILE MADWANTSI

While nourishing relationships can improve our mental and physical health, emotionally draining ones can have the opposite effect, leaving us exhausted, anxious and even physically unwell.

If you've ever walked away from a conversation feeling completely depleted or caught yourself dreading seeing someone, you may have encountered an emotionally draining relationship.

These connections don't always start this way, but over time, they can morph into one-sided dynamics that weigh heavily on our well-being.

Let's dive into the signs of emotionally draining relationships, why they take such a toll on us, and how to protect yourself while maintaining your compassion and kindness.

What is an emotionally draining relationship?

The term "toxic" is often overused, but Dr Patrice LeGoy, as cited by Verywell Mind, defines toxic behaviours as actions that demean, manipulate or gaslight others, often leaving one person feeling unsupported and undervalued.

While not every emotionally draining relationship is outright toxic, these dynamics can still harm your mental health and leave you feeling like you're shouldering someone else's burdens without reciprocity.

It's natural to offer support to friends and loved ones during tough times. After all, listening and empathising are key components of strong relationships.

But when the support becomes one-sided, where you're always the listener, the fixer or the emotional crutch, it can drain your energy and leave little room for your own needs.

How to recognise an emotionally draining relationship