7 ways to talk about sex

Things have changed dramatically since children were given talks about "the birds and the bees". Navigating teaching our children about sex and their own sexuality in this ever-changing world can be a challenge for parents. Here, we look at having the "chat" with an open heart and mind.

- CARROL BAKER

Three-year-old Noah looked up at his mum's very pregnant belly, and said, "Mummy, how did the baby get into your tummy?" Thinking quickly, Jade said, "Well, God took a little bit of me and a little bit of Dad and made a baby." Noah looked alarmed as he eyed his mum from top to toe, and said, "I don't see any bites out of you?" While it can seem cute or even funny to weave a tale of fun and fantasy for your little one, being upfront and honest is very important.

But it isn't always easy, especially if talking about sex felt like it was taboo in your own family when you were growing up or if it's not something you are comfortable talking about as an adult.

It's important to start talking to your child early as it makes it easier. Leave it too late and you also might be surprised at what your child already knows, sourced second-hand from the school playground.

Even before your child begins to verbalise words you can start by naming a child's body parts while they are splashing about in the bath: eyes, ears, nose, vagina, penis, elbow.

Teach your child the anatomically correct names for body parts. If you are in the habit of nicknaming genitals, Dr Justin Coulson, father of six and host of Happy Families Podcast says it's a practice that needs to stop. "No gimmicks, no metaphors use the right word every time," he says.

At the end of the day, educating your child equips them with information so they can learn to feel good about who they are and enjoy their sexuality in a safe, healthy and respectful way.