How To Use Your Relationship For Your Own Self-Care

Weve all heard the saying, Before you love anyone, you must love yourself. But its not that simple.

- Esther Perel 

While it’s true that strong self-worth leads to strong relationships, one of the very first ways you learn to love yourself is by being loved by others and loving them back.

I think it’s wonderful that a big reason young people enter into relationships is to better themselves or feel better about their lives. These sound like self-serving motives, but they are also healthy justifications. Dating someone who makes you feel good is something that should be celebrated.

In fact, I’m going to use a term that’s currently popular: self-care. Sometimes this word implies that your wellbeing should be entirely up to you (that’s a lot of pressure), but in reality, it’s OK to allow your significant other and the bond you share to act as a form of self-care and enhance who you are. Just as you work to honour, pamper, and improve yourself, you can let a romantic relationship do the same.

If you’re coupled up, go for it. Here’s how:

EMBRACE YOUR PARTNER’S EXPECTATIONS