Sex With Your Ex

As a couple you were a disaster but you were on fire in the bedroom. It may be tempting, but is it wise to sleep with your ex?

- Palesa Matjebele

THEY know how to turn you on. You feel comfortable with them. When loneliness sets in and your sexual appetite starts making demands, it’s easy to turn to a willing ex for release. But sleeping with them may damage your chances of a new relationship.

“In many cases, sex with your ex is always good,” says Johannesburg-based relationship consultant Ali Murray.

“You know each other’s bodies well and it may have been the only aspect of the relationship that really worked, so it’s easy to fall into this pattern.”

NO STRINGS ATTACHED

But your motives may be subconscious. If your breakup was recent or you haven’t been sexually active for a while, your self-confidence may have taken a knock. Sex with your ex can remind you that you’re still desirable.

Some people are comfortable with using each other sexually, but it’s not that simple.