Michelle Obama knows first hand that life can be difficult. “When you’re a woman and you’re a minority, you hear the ‘can’ts.’ The ‘No, I don’t think you should do that,’ or ‘No, you’re reaching too high.’ It happens way too often,” says the 54-year-old, who admits the constant doubts took a toll on her self-esteem. But Michelle — who went on to graduate from Princeton University and Harvard Law School, and eventually became the first African American first lady of the United States — proved the naysayers wrong. “If we can be brave enough, we can get outside of the familiar [and] break down these crazy barriers of fear that were built up because of the color of our skin or who we love. [These people] don’t know what they’re doing, they’re just trying to keep you from doing it.” As she celebrates the success of her memoir Becoming, which was the bestselling book of 2018, Michelle opens up about finding herself, her marriage to former President Barack Obama and her message to young women.
When did you find your confidence?
Going to Princeton helped me go, “Ah, I see how it works!” You get there and then you look around and go, “Huh — are you kidding me?” There are kids there who may be smart but they don’t know how to set their alarm, they can’t get up on time, they don’t know how