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Help! I'm too stressed for energetic sex

Q Recently, my mum's been ill and there's trouble at work. I'm coping, but the energetic sex my man and I usually enjoy isn't turning me on. He's been understanding, but I think I need some different bedroom action. Am I odd in feeling like this? And are there ways we could change things so sex is more affectionate and I'm feeling more supported?

SUSAN SAYS

A You're not odd! Energetic sex is wonderful, but when times are hard, it's natural to want comforting bedroom action. Try lying on your sides facing each other so you have eye contact and can talk and kiss. Or 'spoon', where you curl up and he lies behind so his arms encircle you for full body contact. Plus, either position means that afterwards, you can slide into sleep without shifting your position.

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