LET'S TALK ABOUT... BEREAVEMENT

At some point in our lives, every one of us will be affected by bereavement. Chris Marshall-Bell finds out how cyclists can help one another through the grieving process

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Cyclist John Hewitt describes his relationship with his daughter Kelly as having been “extremely close, best friends.” But in late 2016, Kelly changed jobs, becoming a prison officer, and it seemed to take a heavy toll on her mental health. As Christmas approached and John tried to get to the bottom of what was troubling her, Kelly shut him out of her life. “I was distraught and extremely hurt,” the 53-year-old reflects.

His attempts to reconcile with his daughter went unanswered for an entire year – a period of not-knowing brought to an end in the worst possible way. On 21 December 2017, Hewitt received news that Kelly had taken her own life. She was 24. “I hadn’t seen Kelly for 12 months and the next time I did, she was in the mortuary,” Hewitt says slowly. He later learnt that Kelly had been the victim of bullying at work and had also been through the trauma of a miscarriage. “I don’t say this lightly: I still grieve every single day,” he adds.

Hewitt, a Northamptonshire businessman, is one of an estimated 28 million UK adults – 54% of the entire adult population – who have experienced the loss of a loved one in the last five years, according to a 2022 YouGov study. Thirteen-million of us are currently experiencing grief. Around 500,000 Britons die each year, leaving around three million bereaved – we come into contact with the grieving every day.