Finding solutions to life's problems

You might think that finding solutions to life's problems is like trying to drink from a fire-hose. This is because there is so much information coming to you from various sources.

- BY R. S. KARUNARATNE

One way to find solutions to life's problems is to consult someone knowledgeable like a scientist or a philosopher. However, they may not have the time or inclination to answer your simple questions such as: How to get over a hiccup? How to say no to someone without hurting his feelings?

On the other hand, some of us do not know how to write a thank you note or propose a vote of thanks.

When you are extremely busy with your work, a coworker asks whether you could help him to check his project report. Say no to such a request but thank him for thinking of you as a wise or competent person. This kind of approach will help in most situations because the person who is asking for a favour finds no way to respond. Another way to avoid such a person is to say, “I'd love to, but I can’t do it right now. Is there some other way I can help you?” The person who approached you will not be hurt because you are ready to help him.

A business executive has found another way to say no to certain requests. When someone wants something done, say “I am a little busy right now, but Mr Silva will certainly help you.” The person who asked for your help will be pleased with your generosity. The same executive would say, “I'm not familiar with the subject, otherwise I could have helped you.” The person who approached you will not be offended with such a reply.

Sender's generosity

Have you ever written a thank you note? Whenever you receive a gift send a thank you card or thank you note appreciating the sender's generosity. The person who sent the gift will be highly pleased. Your thank you note need not be long, but it must mention the gift you received. Say that you were delighted to have received such a gift. Learn to appreciate the sender's thoughtfulness.