I'm freaking out because my girlfriend has an OnlyFans

Our resident agony aunt Victoria Richards is here to help

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Dear Vix, I'm freaking out - because I just found out my girlfriend is on OnlyFans.

One of my mates found her account and told me about it in the pub. I’ve never felt so embarrassed. He didn’t say he'd seen anything particularly sordid – apparently it's all quite tame - but that's not the point. The point is that she's on there at all!

We haven't been together very long - just a couple of months – but I can't believe she didn't confess to being on there. What happened to honesty?

I’ve told her that her being on OnlyFans is breaking my boundaries - that I have every right to demand she comes off it, or I'll leave her. I can’t handle her being on there. Let's face it - nobody wants their partner selling themselves online. It only cheapens anything we do together in private.

And what would my friends and family say if they found out?

Shocked and Disgusted

Dear Shocked and Disgusted,

I’m going to be quite blunt here. While I empathise with your pain and shock - and there's a betrayal element here, too, because she didn't tell you herself (though I would ask whether she has to tell you after just a few months) - I really don’t think it's your choice as to whether or not she decides to quit OnlyFans.