STOP FRAMING PROBLEMS AS EXISTENTIAL

We love intensity. We've been raised on it. News that screams apocalypse, relationships that must define us, and careers that are either calling or catastrophe.

- Somi Das

For us, everything is existential. Everything either has to ignite our sense of purpose or drag us into the dungeons of despair.

A bad boss isn't just a bad boss anymore; they can trigger a full-blown crisis of self-worth.

A friend who doesnt share our ideology must be a bad human being, no longer worthy of our friendship. A heartbreak becomes a referendum on whether love itself still exists.

Every piece of information, so cheaply and easily available, demands reflection on “the times we live in.” And somewhere inside all this drama, we forget how to live a normal, durable life, without the constant internal monologue of making sense or processing everything that happens around us.

When we call every discomfort a threat to our being, we lose the ability to respond proportionately. Anxiety replaces action. We start speaking in absolutes — always, never, ruined, saved because anything less feels shallow.

But life isn’t made of absolutes. It’s mostly small repairs: an apology, a new plan, a good night's sleep. Calling every bruise a mortal wound doesn't deepen our awareness; it flattens it. It strips us of nuance, and liveliness, and pushes us into an eternal state of victimhood, and nagging.