Mother-in-law has forced my mum to fork out for baby

My husband and I are expecting our first baby in January, and both sets of grandparents are very excited as the baby will be their first grandchild.

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Dear Coleen

My issue is, my mother-in-law has taken it upon herself to get in touch with my mum to carve up what they're going to buy us for the baby - crib, buggy, car seat and so on.

She seems to think it’s traditional for the grandparents to do this, but my parents aren't really in a position to fork out hundreds of pounds on this stuff. I can tell my mum is a bit stressed about it, so I've just told her not to worry and that I'll find a way to get my mother-in-law to back off.

My husband and I are happy to buy the big things ourselves and if the grandparents want to buy gifts when the baby arrives, that's great.