Commitment-phobe and the dangerous game of future faking

Commitment probe and

- Helen Coffey, The Independent

From the very beginning, we talked about family, marriage, kids. It was not casual — it was constant.

We were planning our future together; we were talking about names of our kids; we were going to jewellery stores where he asked my ring size... genuinely believed I was building a life with this man.” Digital creator Anastasiia shared this story on Instagram at the end of last year in a three-part post. She described a fairytale experience that many women dream of — meeting a man, feeling an instant, “magical” chemistry and connection, and swiftly beginning to create a shared vision of a future together. “Back then, it felt like love, it felt like destiny,” she continues. But what followed was far less romantic. As time went on, none of the big plans came to fruition; her partner seemed to be all talk, no action. “The proposal was always delayed for some fake reason,” she says. “It turned into an emotional rollercoaster of manipulation, a complete disconnect between his words and actions. And I stayed in that dynamic, hooked and confused, trying to make sense of things that didn’t make sense.”