DR. SARA NASSERZADEH

On Sex Education in Sri Lanka & Why Protection Isn't “Western” | PART 2 OF 2

- By Nuha Faiz

In Part 1, we saw the evidence: comprehensive sexuality education protects children. But what happens when parents stay silent? When young people grow up without language for their bodies or boundaries? Dr. Nasserzadeh takes us from theory to lived reality in part 2.

Writer's Note: This interview provides research-based perspectives on sexuality education. It does not advocate for any single curriculum, but seeks to support informed, culturally aware dialogue.

Q 67% of Sri Lankan parents lack adequate knowledge about child sexual abuse. What are the consequences when parents stay silent? And what would you say directly to Sri Lankan parents?

First, I would like to say to Sri Lankan parents: your discomfort is understandable, and you are not alone. Many parents around the world were themselves raised in silence and are now being asked to do something they never saw modelled. This is a heavy burden.

When parents stay silent, children still receive messages about sexuality, they simply receive them from less dependable sources. Peers, pornography, advertising, and social media step into the gap. Psychologically, children may conclude that their questions are shameful, that their bodies are dangerous, or that adults cannot be trusted with their vulnerability. This can increase the risk of secrecy if abuse occurs, because the child fears they will be blamed, disbelieved, or punished. Even if you cannot take actions (because the abuser is a person of power, a relative that you cannot confront, etc.) at least just listen and validate the child so they don't internalise the shame. You might not believe this but as a clinician I have to tell you that such an incident can alter the person's whole trajectory of life. Many parents don't open these conversations because they are afraid of not being able to handle them or have the right answer, just holding the space and listening to the child goes a long way.