JUST FOR TWO

JUST YOU AND YOUR PARTNER, ON A YACHT.IT'S THE DREAM SCENARIO BUT HOW TO ENSURE YOU BOTH ENJOY IT EQUALLY? BLUEWATER SAILORS SHARE THEIR SECRETS WITH HELEN FRETTER

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For many cruising couples the liveaboard life is a shared ambition worked and saved towards for years, before setting off together, alone.

For others, the decision to sail two-up is an evolution, borne of an increase in skill and knowledge, and the desire to reclaim peace and privacy on board after sailing with crew. But expectation and reality do not always align, so how do you ensure the experience matches the vision you both held?

We canvassed dozens of cruisers on how to run a happy ship for two. Many knew couples whose relationship did not survive living aboard. All had strategies to avoid the same pitfalls, and generously shared their advice.

WHO KNOWS MORE?

Few of our cruising couples had similar levels of sailing experience as each other initially. “A very definite no,” says Miranda Baker on that question. “Elliot had his RYA Yachtmaster Offshore and a ton of experience crewing and teaching sailing. I'd spent six weeks ‘crewing’ a boat through the Whitsundays in my early 20s - but don't remember the sails ever being raised. I think this disparity worked in our favour because it was clear who would be in charge." The couple have so far sailed 15,000 miles from New Zealand to Indonesia.

More important was how each pairing developed those skills. "One bit of advice we always give is to make sure you level-up your sailing experience as much as possible," says Charlotte DC. She and partner JP Baudains are circumnavigating, and also run a brokerage company, often advising new cruisers on bluewater yachts.

"Stressful situations at sea can be even worse when only one person feels like they can be 'dealing with the boat' at that time," she adds. "It makes the other person feel guilty and unimportant."

GET BETTER TOGETHER