The Power Of Love

The concept revolves around the power of a Lady, how she binds the man in her beauty. Here intelligence is how she holds the sacred bond. Imagination is the Mistress, on how we see beauty as a whole or how we would want our fantasies. And memory becomes the servant where we are bound in the midst of human chores of life.

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I HAVE A VERY EMBARRASSING PROBLEM. I AM A 15-YEAR-OLD GIRL brought up in a strict conservative family. For some time now, I have such explicit dreams with sexual content that even recalling these in the morning when I wake up fills me with guilt and shame. Often too, to make things worse, these involve boys in my class!

I have always been a modest and well-behaved girl, and my interactions with boys is purely platonic. Why then do I have such bad dreams? Please advise.

First, relax and stop feeling guilty or ashamed. This is a very common occurrence in the adolescent years when suddenly, sex hormones start flooding the body. Apart from the obvious physical changes these bring about, these also arouse emotions and feelings of interest in the opposite sex. It is nature’s way of keeping alive the reproduction of the species, so to say.

When these natural emotions are suppressed for being “bad”and “wrong”, they will surface insidiously in the form of dreams when you are sleeping. Just ignore the nightly dreams, stop brooding over them, or feel guilt or shame. The more you think about them, the more likely are these to bother you. If you stop feeling disturbed, these will stop. Even, if these do occur once in a while, just forget them as simply silly dreams.

I AM A 15-YEAR-OLD GIRL. LAST MONTH, A FRIEND OF MINE TOLD me about masturbation and how to do it. I was surprised because I did not know anything about sex till then.

Nowadays, I do it often every day. My friend says it is harmless but I read somewhere that it can lead to infertility, psychological problems, etc. I am worried and want to know the true facts from you. Please advise.