Why Are Men Ignoring The Red Flags?

In a bid to understand men in love, or attempting to be in love, we delve into what constitutes a red flag and why men are drawn to it like a Spanish fighting bull

- Niraj Kakade

Men have this innate feeling in them to rebel against the norm. Stick a fork in the power socket, climb a tree a squirrel wouldn't dare to, jump signal at the traffic, ignore red flags, both literally and metaphorically. I've seen men do dumb things throughout my life, but nothing breaks my heart more than losing a bro to a toxic situation. But why do we do this?

There are two things at playpatriarchy and psychology. The former gives us an unprecedented amount of privilege, or rather audacity. Reflect back and think how many times your parents said no to you compared to your sister or a female friend. But patriarchy is a double-edged sword, which we'll get to later. The more scientific side of things tells us about a phenomenon called 'Confirmation Bias,' where you tend to (regardless of gender) ignore the potential shortcomings of a person and still barge in like an idiot. It is exactly how Wanda from Netflix's Bojack Horseman puts it, "When you look at someone through rose-colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags."