#Shetoo 'I Was Sexually Assaulted By A Woman'

When Kate*, 28, Tried To Have Sex With Another Woman, She Never Expected To Feel Violated And Be Left Bleeding

- Kelsey Garlick

The main thing I remember from that night is her going down on me and really just f*cking everything up. I remember it hurting so much. I remember checking the toilet paper and seeing blood all over it, and screaming. And I ignored my instincts – a decision I regret to this very day.

Will* and I started swinging after about eight years together. Since I was his first girlfriend, he’d always had a desire to sleep with other people, and as each year passed, that desire never went away. Eventually we figured we’d better actually address that. All my conservative friends told me I should just break up with him – monogamy was the only way of life in their minds. But I really didn’t believe that. After resisting the idea for a few years, I started to switch perspective and think about what I wanted, what I desired – and it made me curious. I figured we could try it out, so we went to a beginner swingers’ night at a sex club.

It was actually really fun. I tried things I never thought I’d try, like being with a girl. I only hooked up with girls that night – it felt like they were just more relaxed around each other – while Will mostly just watched. After that, we joined some adult matchmaking sites, met a really lovely couple and played around with them a bit before they decided to stop due to jealousy. But we ended on good terms.

My experiences so far had been really good – I’d hooked up with these girls, had a good time, felt totally safe and enjoyed myself. So when Will suggested we meet another couple he’d been talking to, I thought, why not? They lived almost two hours away, so we planned to go down for the weekend. But when we got there, we immediately got weird vibes. Instead of hanging out like a date, they took us to the pub with a bunch of their friends and stayed there for about four hours, buying us drinks the whole time.