Are We All In The Same Weirdly Devastating Three-Month Situationship?

Turns out, everybody goes through-er, grows through?—this kind of thing.

- Kayla Kibbe

The worst breakup I ever had wasn't even a real breakup. It was whatever you call it when you decide to tell the person you're dating that you love them, then cry yourself to sleep in their bed after they reject you. I was 21, he was 37, and I had fallen into the kind of delirious infatuation that almost feels inevitable a few months into a romantically ambiguous thing where one party is more emotionally invested than the other. I'd forgotten that these quick but intense quasi-relationships almost always end this way, with someone (hi) feeling gutted.

I know you can relate. You know who else can? Taylor Swift. Her 2010 situationship with Jake Gyllenhaal was responsible for not one, not two, but four different versions of the heartbreak anthem All Too Well. I'm guessing that particular relationship followed a familiar but strangely hard to avoid pattern: multiple dates, loads of romance, frequent texting, meeting friends or even family-all sans labels or real commitment. And then...the crash.