Charlie Kirk gave young men something to believe in. Newsom wants to do the same

Like many young men these days, Kamaldeep Dhanoa, a lanky 17-year-old, knew he wanted to do something with his life, be a part of something, but didn't quite know what that meant.

- ANITA CHABRIA COLUMNIST

GENARO MOLINA Los Angeles Times

A MEMORIAL to Charlie Kirk, whose organization Turning Point USA gave scores of young people real-world connections.

Coming up with a career was important. But even more, it was finding the right friends — discovering what he wanted to be a part of.

He did both when he joined Improve Your Tomorrow, a mentorship organization for teenage boys and young men — that vulnerable, chronically online demographic from which Charlie Kirk drew many of his most ardent supporters, and where so much of our societal angst is focused in the wake of his death.

Now a senior at Florin High School in a suburb outside Sacramento, Dhanoa has a plan to become a paramedic, and more important, has those friendships that help him feel not just connected, but included and valued.

His something.

"I just know I have brothers around me," he told me Tuesday. "We're always with each other. It gives you, like, a sense of security. So if you're feeling down, you could always, always rely on them."

Dhanoa was hanging out in his school's gym with Gov. Gavin Newsom, who dropped by to announce the California Men's Service Challenge, an effort to recruit 10,000 Golden State males to serve as mentors to boys such as Dhanoa, so more boys can find their something.

It's a worthy effort, and before you jump to thinking it's a reaction to Kirk, I'll point out that 10 years ago, California's first partner, Jennifer Siebel Newsom, made a documentary about the crisis of connection and identity facing young men, "The Mask You Live In." Recently, her husband caught up.

To be fair, a lot of us have been slow on the uptake when it comes to understanding why so many young men seem drawn to the obvious loneliness and disconnection of chronically online lives.