’Fess up. We all do it. The little fibs we tell him, the secrets we guard. Take comfort. Experts say getting a little creative with the truth sometimes is permissible – but you must always know where to draw the line.
You might say Ellen* has become really good at lying. Nothing major, just what she calls everyday fibbing. The kind where you tell your friend you love the birthday present she gave you (eww, no), that she looks great in those jeans (she doesn’t), and you tell your boss you have an upset tummy – which we all know is code speak for “overslept”.
So why should it be any different when it comes to her significant other? In truth, Ellen just wants to keep the peace. She’s usually an open book in her marriage – except when it comes to meeting up with a couple of close male friends whom her husband isn’t a fan of.
“Of course I feel guilty,” Ellen admits. “But I would be disappointed in myself if I gave in to everything he says.” Fiercely independent, Ellen relishes the freedom to choose her own friends and is unwilling to sacrifice an important aspect of who she is. “I’m optimistic that over time, his insecurities will fade and the issue will resolve itself.”
Charlotte* buys whatever she wants with her money and doesn’t always tell her husband about it. But there’s always a little bit of guilt. “I don’t tell him when I purchase big ticket items,” she confesses. “Even though it’s my own money, I feel that because he’s my husband, I am obliged to tell him what I’m spending on.” It’s a toss-up between wanting to take ownership of her life and being accountable to the guy she promised to spend it with.
Angeline* has never disclosed exactly how much she earns to her partner of more than 10 years. “Keeping my money private is a safety net I need in case he leaves me or something unfortunate happens,” she says. “And it’s mutual – he doesn’t share how much he earns, either. We’re both comfortable that way.”
Bu hikaye Her World Singapore dergisinin September 2018 sayısından alınmıştır.
Start your 7-day Magzter GOLD free trial to access thousands of curated premium stories, and 8,500+ magazines and newspapers.
Already a subscriber ? Giriş Yap
Bu hikaye Her World Singapore dergisinin September 2018 sayısından alınmıştır.
Start your 7-day Magzter GOLD free trial to access thousands of curated premium stories, and 8,500+ magazines and newspapers.
Already a subscriber? Giriş Yap
BACK TO BOLD
Say goodbye to low-key and hello to decadence with over-the-top makeup trends. Here's why maximalist beauty is taking over.
THE CORTISOL CONNECTION
Is it possible to undo the ravages of stress while living in a fast-paced world? We dive into how our levels of cortisol - our body's primary stress hormone - can be regulated, and ways to manage its effects.
Air-dry or blow-dry - which is worse for your mane?
Haircare experts share their advice.
Book Club
More than just a vision-enhancing tool, prescription glasses are shaping up to be quite the fashion statement.
How can I use Artificial Intelligence (Al) more effectively at work?
Govtech engagement manager Nicole Lim answers.
BEHIND CLOSED DOORS
Swing by these intimate, hidden bars featuring unique concepts and inventive cocktails.
THE ORANGE PEEL THEORY
Would you break up with your partner over peeled fruit? This latest social media trend might just be the unlikely dealbreaker.
The rise of tradwives
Is this just another fancy name for a stay-at-home mum?
HOW MUCH IS FAMILY PLANNING ACTUALLY COSTING YOU?
It's always prudent to be financially sound and savvy - especially if you're planning to start a family. Find out how you and your partner can map out a financial plan that is realistic, based on advice from parents and experts.
IN THE THICK OF ACTION
Doctor by day, champion for change by night: Dr June Goh-Rin is a whirlwind of energy. This multi-hyphenate doctor, advocate and former president of the Singapore Council of Women's Organisations (SCWO) tackles every challenge whether at work or advocating for women's issues - head-on.