Seeing RED

SIX RELATIONSHIP RED FLAGS TO BE WARY OF, ACCORDING TO LAWYER CAROLYN DEVRIES

- Madison Bogisch.

As a family lawyer, I witness couples at their lowest moments and have practical insight into the behaviours that trigger stress and strain in a relationship.

Being aware of these six relationship red flags – and getting help early on – can be crucial to keeping your relationship healthy and steering clear of a divorce lawyer’s office later.

1 WHEN SCREEN TIME BECOMES THE THIRD WHEEL

It’s a modern love triangle – you, your partner and those ever-present screens. This digital divide is nudging its way to the top of the ‘why we split’ list in 2024.

SELF-HELP TIP: How about declaring a tech timeout? Put the phones away. Try an evening walk, dinner out or a board game – just the two of you.

PROFESSIONAL TIP: Engaging a relationship counsellor can help bridge the communication gap that technology often widens.

2 WHEN DOLLARS ARE SCARCE AND THERE’S NO CENTS Romance and love in a relationship can be undermined by the stress of the rising cost of living, dwindling bank balances and tight budgets. Postpandemic, money matters are a make-or-break factor.

SELF-HELP TIP: How about a no-stress money chat? Set up a time each month to talk dollars and dreams – no judgments, just plans.