In today’s time and age, pop culture has demonised the bonds between women. Coming from an all-girls school – a place filled with amazing yet undeniably hormonal teenage girls, with few of them trying to ape “Blair Waldorf” – tearing down others for fun and gossip, I, too, had unintentionally absorbed this idea that female friendships are unhealthy and competitive.
I was also literally consumed by the opinion that boys make better friends than girls. In my first year of college, I befriended a couple of pupils, primarily boys. I had some female friends as well, but we were not as close.
Since, I hailed from a small city with several stereotypes attached to women, coupled with minimal exposure to boys in my entire school years; I found male friendship (so-called less drama) inherently more valuable than female friendship. At that juncture, having platonic relations with boys was just like an achievement for eighteen-year-old lass like me.
With my new set of friends and new experiences, life was all hunkydory. But shortly, it was hit by a major tragedy. In my second year of college, I lost my dearest mother. Her sudden demise had a significant impact on me. It created an emotional void inside me.
Although I acted all strong on the outside, I was just too broken and lonely on the inside. For some reason, I was too ashamed to express my feelings. While I thought that I had successfully concealed my sorrow and tricked everyone into believing that I was over my mother’s death, my ‘not so close’ female friends sensed my distress and suffering and reached out to me.
This story is from the December 2021 edition of Woman's Era.
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