I Want Women To Embrace Ageing, Be Proud Of It, And Do It Well.
Fairlady|February 2017

That’s what Cameron Diaz wishes for us! And in her two books on healthy living and ageing, she pulls together a strategy for doing just this. We loved this no-nonsense interview with her, and we definitely plan on taking a leaf out of her book.

Terry Malloy

Q: I was very impressed with your book, The Longevity Book. Is it particularly difficult for you, as a movie star, to talk about age?

A: I don’t think so. When I turned 40 I did a lot of press for a movie and everybody was asking me if I was terrified about the big 4-0. And I said, ‘Honestly, no. I can’t wait to turn 40.’ But I knew what they meant in terms of my career. I wasn’t 25 any more and everybody knew that. So I was no longer valuable. I thought to myself, ‘Why are they saying that? I feel amazing! But deep inside it hurt. Doubt came up and I said to myself, ‘Maybe I should be scared. Maybe it means that everything is over now!’ But I felt really vital then and I feel really vital now, at 44. I realised they weren’t talking about my physical wellbeing; they were talking about my career and whether I would be able to withstand being a 40-year-old in society. If people didn’t see me as a 25-year-old, who would I be?

Q: What do we associate most with ageing?

A: I think when we talk about ageing we mean wrinkles and sagging and general decline. But that’s not all there is; there is something really happening here. I thought if we could understand what ageing actually is, we would not be so afraid of it; we would feel empowered by understanding, by knowledge. Ageing is such a new thing – it’s only in the past 150 years that we’ve got to grow old. Forty used to be the end of the road for women 150 years ago, and now we have another whole lifetime those women didn’t have to live, and to celebrate life. Why would we be sad about having another 40 years of life ahead of us? Isn’t that a mid-life celebration instead of a mid-life crisis? As I was thinking all that I got angry with the questions I was supposed to answer. Why are they all so concerned about my career? Why does nobody bother asking me: ‘How are your bones?! Are they holding up?’ ‘Did you get a check-up? Is your blood okay?  

Q: Is good health the most important aspect of ageing well?

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