Teaching Your Child Self-Discipline
Parent Circle|March 2017

A bridge to success is self-discipline, the ability to consistently practice simple habits to achieve one’s goals. In our Super 10 for Success series this month, we tell you how to help your children develop self-discipline.

Akshaya Ganesh

SCENARIO ONE: “It’s not easy to lose weight” – You’ve told your teen many times. To avoid your constant nagging, he joins the gym you wanted him to. Win-win situation? Not really, you feel a few months later. After all, you don’t notice any difference. He looks the same to you.

SCENARIO TWO: “It’s not easy to lose weight” – You’ve told your teen many times. To avoid your constant nagging, he joins the gym you wanted him to. Win-win situation? Absolutely, you feel a few months later! After all, you notice a huge difference. He looks amazing!

On the surface, you may be wondering what went wrong in scenario one. Well, there are several hidden elements in the two scenarios. Losing weight is not just about joining the ‘best’ gym and expecting the results. It takes immense dedication, perseverance and discipline to lose weight. So, in the first scenario, while your teen managed to join the gym, he wasn’t regular, as he was unwilling to persevere. Plus, his impulsive craving for sugary delights led to many ‘temptations’. These two ‘enemies’ served as serious obstacles in his path. There was no way he was going to lose weight.

In the second scenario, the situation is exactly the opposite. Your son joined the gym because of your constant nagging, but soon realised that joining the gym and working hard will help him stay healthy for a lifetime. He was focussed, dedicated, regular and never gave in to impulsive cravings. He looked at the future and diligently worked towards it.

A quick glance at the two scenarios may show no ‘visible’ difference. However, the hidden element whose presence (or absence) made a big difference is self-discipline, an important determinant of happiness and success.

WHY SHOULD YOUR CHILD EMBRACE SELF-DISCIPLINE?

As babies, we are all impulsive, sometimes crying our way to achieve things. However, things change with the passage of time, especially between the developmental ages of 3 and 7. This is also the time when a crucial trait makes its maiden entry into one’s life. We are talking about self-discipline, or the lack of it.

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