This Conversation Could Change Your Life

Sometimes, the most important things in life are the hardest to talk about. Do you often think that you could never broach that conversation? Well, let’s get started...

- Clare Goldwin

Think of the last time you were facing a big conversation. Whether it was about a work situation that was making you miserable, tensions with a family member, or even an important issue in your relationship, chances are you kept putting it off and letting it drift.

We’re so often terrified about making a bad situation worse, or just not getting the outcome we’re hoping for, that we decide not to say anything at all. And many of those who have plucked up the courage to speak out often find the discussion descends into a shouting match, with both parties ending up feeling hurt and disappointed.

No wonder so many of us hate tackling difficult subjects with the important people in our lives. But these exchanges do have the power to change things for the better – think big diplomacy negotiations on the world stage! Whether it’s a relationship chat that ends in a marriage proposal or a talk that heals a rift or simply helps you clarify your next step – being able to communicate your point of view clearly but respectfully is an essential life skill. These strategies could change the way you talk – and your whole life, too.

First face your fears

Before embarking on a significant conversation, write down the risks and benefits of going through with it versus staying silent. Clarifying why you need to talk will help steel your resolve and, while identifying what you’re afraid of may not dissipate the dread entirely, it will help you get a handle on your fears.

Don’t let your emotions take over