How To Use Your 'Desire Map'?
The Singapore Women's Weekly|January 2019

Here’s how to aim high in 2019. We show you how to use your “Desire Map”, which can put your plans into action and help you achieve your dreams

How To Use Your 'Desire Map'?

Why are we often unable to achieve goals that are important to us? We start out enthusiastically, and manage to keep going for a while – but then we give up.

“We need to choose our goals well,” says psychologist Heiko Ernst. “Goals which are of importance to us, which align with our values, and which are chosen without any external pressure, have a positive effect on our well-being. These are goals associated with personal growth, interpersonal relationships, and contributions to society. They fill us with joie de vivre.”

Danielle LaPorte, author of bestselling book The Desire Map agrees. One New Year’s Eve, Danielle was making a list of all the things she wanted to do the following year, and she noticed one key element that was missing: Heart. Why did she want to be successful in her job? Why did she want to lose weight and take a holiday overseas? It was a magical moment, because then Danielle started asking herself new questions. How did she want to feel – in her job, in her body, in her relationship? And what could she do to achieve this? These simple questions changed everything.

What Is “The Desire Map”?

Danielle’s book asks the following: Do you feel like embarking on a journey to explore your innermost desires? Then what are you waiting for? Look at yourself, what you dream of, what you’re dying to do. And most importantly, examine what inspires you, what road your heart wants to take, and how you feel about yourself – the checklist below will help with this.

Knowing how we want to feel gives us clarity and opens the door to a fulfilled, creative life. We need a real vision in order to achieve our goals – in every part of our life plan. The only prerequisite is that we must turn our brain into our most important ally.

This story is from the January 2019 edition of The Singapore Women's Weekly.

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