Stronger Together
Tatler Malaysia|November 2021
Power couple Scha Alyahya and Awal Ashaari seem to have it all—a loving marriage, beautiful family, thriving careers and an exciting business. Throughout it all, they keep their feet firmly on the ground while keeping their eye on the prize
Elizabeth Soong

At the risk of sounding cliché, Scha Alyahya and Awal Ashaari are meant to be together. They met when they co-hosted a reality show together, but Awal was already into Scha before that, when he first saw her at the Dewi Remaja beauty pageant finals—he was the host and she was one of the contestants (she was crowned the winner). He was so smitten that after learning that other male celebrities were interested in Scha, his competitive spirit was ignited. He even had to pull some strings so he can end up in the same shoot as her. Such was his determination to pursue the woman of his dreams.

After dating for three years, he popped the question on live TV, stunning a surprised Scha that she was moved to shed happy tears, which her husband said was very “un-Scha-like”. The grand romantic gesture, however, was very much in line with Awal’s character, who is the more expressive of the two.

The pair married on May 4, 2012, and they are blessed with two beautiful girls, Lara Alana, 7, and Lila Amina, who’s about to turn nine months old. According to them, their marriage is based on open communication, give and take, respecting and accepting each other’s differences, with jokes thrown in for good measure.

Like the sun and the moon, they’re complete opposites, says Awal, but their differences are what makes them work as a couple. Where Scha is an introvert, disciplined, a productive planner, and strong in character, Awal is extroverted, calm, adaptable, laidback, a man with a vision. He says, “I must say we complete each other in a very dynamic way. Scha can turn my weakness into her strength, and vice versa. Acceptance is key and communication is everything.”

Scha agrees, saying that if there is one indispensable ingredient for making a marriage work, it’s communication. “We’re all imperfect. Perpetual pouting and grudge-holding don’t build up a marriage. We’d take a break to calm ourselves down and gather our thoughts for effective communication. Success in marriage doesn’t come merely through finding the right one, but through being the right one.”

Looking back over the nine years since they tied the knot, they agree that so much has changed. In fact, their wedding anniversaries are always celebrated over a quiet dinner at a nice restaurant where they take this time to reflect about their life and what they’ve accomplished together. Scha says, “We’ve definitely had hard times, ups and downs. But that’s part of the good. Through it all, we have each other to lean on. Everything we’ve gone through in life, we have one another to share, to celebrate and stick with through hard times. We laugh, cry and pray together. We drive each other crazy but at the end of the day we want to be together for the rest of our lives.”

Awal concurs, “Marriage is not a walk in the park. It’s definitely a roller-coaster ride and you are both part of it. The trick is to fasten your seatbelt and enjoy the ride. Accept the fact that you’re in this ride together and let’s see where it brings you… and it has brought us where we are today.”

They’ve also grown to become one of the most prominent names in the digital sphere, with a combined 11 million followers on Instagram. As public figures, their life is like an open book—their YouTube channel and reality TV shows give a showreel of their life, from house and furniture hunting, to buying Raya clothes, to even baby Lila’s birth. But the couple would insist that they’re pretty much the same on and offscreen.

Sharing his thoughts on their branding, Awal says, “Before we got married, our work scope was different. Scha is known to be a funny actress and I am more of a serious TV host and when we got together, our fans combined our names as SchAwal. At times we feel we are losing our individuality due to our strong branding and everyone (clients, producers, TV stations) saw us as a couple instead of a person.

Continue reading your story on the app

Continue reading your story in the magazine

MORE STORIES FROM TATLER MALAYSIAView All

Ice Ice Baby

Can an ice bath for your face really work wonders for your complexion?

6 mins read
Tatler Malaysia
January 2022

Naked Ambition

Oscar-winning costume designer Tim Yip has chosen Eileen Chang’s work for his stage directorial debut. Here’s why

4 mins read
Tatler Malaysia
January 2022

Burn Out

It might be winter, but there’s no time like the present for Supergoop! founder Holly Thaggard to convince you to change the way you think about sun protection

3 mins read
Tatler Malaysia
January 2022

Louder Than Words

There’s a beauty in SUEN’s handcrafted jewellery not found anywhere else

2 mins read
Tatler Malaysia
January 2022

Reclaiming the Culture

From rock bottom to rock and roll, chef Gaggan Anand gets candid about shifting attitudes towards Indian cuisine ahead of his highly anticipated Singapore pop-up

5 mins read
Tatler Malaysia
January 2022

Restoring Balance

Our body has an incredible ability to heal and regenerate itself, but a myriad factors can block its recovery. We talk to healing practitioners who use the power of sound and elemental energy to bring harmony and balance within

10 mins read
Tatler Malaysia
January 2022

Mind the Gap

Serial entrepreneur Azran Osman-Rani is laser-focused on redefining modern healthcare to become more holistic and ensure both physical and mental wellbeing are looked after

7 mins read
Tatler Malaysia
January 2022

The Good, the Bad, the Ugly

Wellness advocates Maggy Wang and Talitha Tan talk about taking the bad with the good when it comes to personal growth—here’s how and why

6 mins read
Tatler Malaysia
January 2022

The Razak Reset

As his book tops local best-selling lists, Tan Sri Nazir Razak reveals a glimpse of the man behind his name in this Tatler exclusive

8 mins read
Tatler Malaysia
January 2022

Environmental Essentials

With sustainability built into infrastructure, we can afford a greener way of life that is practical and effortless

2 mins read
Tatler Malaysia
December 2021
RELATED STORIES

The science of happıness

WHY DOES A GOOD WORKOUT MAKE YOU FEEL SO MUCH HAPPIER? TURNS OUT, IT HAS AS MUCH TO DO WITH YOUR HEAD AS WITH YOUR BODY.

7 mins read
Oxygen
Fall 2021

Fighting to Be More Than A Cog in the Machine

A German auto parts maker seeks to engineer itself a future for the post-Merkel era

8 mins read
Bloomberg Businessweek
September 20, 2021

COME- BACK

RANDY POBST RECOUNTS HIS EPIC PIKES PEAK CRASH AND HOW THE UNPLUGGED PERFORMANCE TEAM GAVE HIM A SECOND CRACK AT GLORY

6 mins read
Motor Trend
February 2021

SWEET LOVE

Drizzle it over biscuits, use it to sweeten a cup of tea, or just sneak a spoonful out of the jar every now and then—there’s nothing like Oklahoma honey.

9 mins read
Oklahoma Today
January/February 2021

Me 262 Mach 1 Mystery

Did the Reich get there first?

10+ mins read
Flight Journal
Annual 2020

BREAKING BOUNDARIES

MEET THE SALAM SCHOOL STARS—AN ALL-MUSLIM GIRLS’ TEAM THAT’S CHALLENGING GENDER-NORMS WITHIN THEIR COMMUNITY.

4 mins read
Slam
November - December 2020

SUPER TROUPER

JANNE SCHAFFER REMEMBERS BEING IN THE STUDIO AS THE ABBA GUITARIST.

6 mins read
GOLDMINE
December 2020

Customers are again placing more value on individualism. Small brands are becoming more attractive.

Based in the Black Forest region in Germany, Jörg Schauer has been making watches for 30 years. With his two watch brands, Schauer and Stowa, he has built up quite a following online. Here’s a look back at where it all started and what Schauer has planned for 2020. Questions by Rüdiger Bucher

6 mins read
Watch Time
July - August 2020

THE BRONCO IS BACK

THE SUV THAT O.J. MADE FAMOUS IS GETTING A MAKEOVER, THANKS TO A FEW OBSESSED FORD EMPLOYEES

9 mins read
Bloomberg Businessweek
July 20, 2020

FAMILY RUNS OVER $1M CASH STASH!

Honest folks hand over trash bag treasure

1 min read
Globe
June 15, 2020