Choose Your Better Half For A Better Life
Life Positive|December 2021
It is increasingly common nowadays for life partners to part company. Those who wish to enter into a happy marriage would do well to heed H H Swami Mukundananda’s advice on selecting their mates
H H Swami Mukundananda

The decision to couple up with someone and be in a committed relationship is one of the most important ones of your life. Relationships have many variables such as appearance, qualities, and character. If you pay attention to things that really matter and are meaningful, you can easily find the right partner for yourself.

In the ancient model of arranged marriages, you did not have a say in the choice of your partner. Parents decided based on externals such as looks, wealth, and social status. That was more like getting a lottery ticket because you did not know if the other person was suitable or not.

Then came the Western model where you fall head over heels in love with someone and live happily ever after. That model also doesn’t work because statistics from the West tell us that 50 per cent of marriages end in divorce.

For better or for worse: Remember that marriage is a lifelong commitment that can have a huge impact on you and your family. An ideal partner is one whom you trust, connect with, and share goals with. A true companion provides support, guidance, and fosters an environment for growth. Someone with integrity and nurturing virtues can brighten and enrich your life, whereas insincerity, vices, and emotional disconnect between two people can lead to disharmony and unhappiness. Paying attention to things that are of value to you is important for long-term satisfaction and a lasting relationship.

Hence, it is critical to understand and evaluate your personality as well as that of your prospective partner before deciding on the right partner for yourself. Though everyone’s value system is different, you want to look for certain universal characteristics in your life partner. Let us discuss them.

Being a good human being: You’ll find that as you move ahead in life with your significant other, loving gestures of showering gifts and compliments will not please you as much as the good-heartedness of your spouse. Someone who is spiritually inclined and believes in higher values is likely to have a noble character and virtues. These people generally will have fewer bad habits such as drinking and gambling. Their lofty ideals and goals will inspire you to do good, become better, and feel better.

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