In part one of this two part series I proposed the need to have a more compassionate view towards adultery. I shall now dive deeper into the empathy worthy motivations that cause partners to cheat.
The five spears of womanly errors
There are the five spears that pierce a man's heart, awakening in him the relationship wanderlust and luring him to go astray. These are;
1. The ego-bashing spear
When the female partner repeatedly blames and shames her man, either directly, by taunting or criticising him, or in passive aggressive ways that minimize him, making him feel good for nothing, or utterly useless, the man begins to seek other women around whom he can feel safe and accepted. These friendly interactions usually start out as innocent venting chats with friends, colleagues or acquaintances on dating apps, but can progress quite naturally into romantic dalliances.
2. The denied manhood spear
When the male partner is made to feel unmanly because he doesn't earn enough, or when he isn't perceived to be as powerful as the woman would like him to be, or if she treats him like a menial worker or handyman whom she can order around, she unintentionally castrates his manhood. Respect is vital in any enduring relationship and in its absence, men can get defiant and agitated, wanting to avenge their humiliation by getting back at their partner and the easiest way is to give his affections to another woman. Never hurt a man's gender image. It can infuriate him enough to test his manhood outside the relationship.
3. The no intimacy spear
This story is from the May 2022 edition of Life Positive.
Start your 7-day Magzter GOLD free trial to access thousands of curated premium stories, and 8,500+ magazines and newspapers.
Already a subscriber ? Sign In
This story is from the May 2022 edition of Life Positive.
Start your 7-day Magzter GOLD free trial to access thousands of curated premium stories, and 8,500+ magazines and newspapers.
Already a subscriber? Sign In
Who says healing is no laughing matter?
In January 2016, Sheetal Agarwal from Delhi heard about medical clowning for the first time.
Zealous healer provides an alternative to allopathy
Satyendra Singh from Mumbai has had a remarkable journey.
Reaching Out with Kriya Yoga
Sanghamitra Chatterjee from Thane was initially inspired by her maternal grandmother and Swami Vivekananda to tread the path of spirituality.
Bavarian Beauty
Rashi Bunny’s decision to visit Bamberg instead of the more touristy cities in Germany gives us a taste of a historical town seeped in picturesque beauty as well as its gory witch-hunting past
The Power of the Gayatri Mantra
Navni Chawla explains the deeper significance of the 'most powerful mantra' by referring to quotes from the late Swami Veda Bharati, whose intuitive wisdom brings forth its splendour
From Squalor to Splendour: Reviving Puducherry
An inspiring tale of a feisty woman's fight to clean up a decaying city. Shivi Verma interviews Kiran Bedi, the formidable former IPS officer, who leaves an indelible impression wherever she goes
THE 20 BEST POSTMILLENNIAL SPIRITUAL MEMOIRS
If you are a spiritual seeker, then you will find that the list of books recommended here by Ashish Virmani will save you the time and effort of googling for modern spiritual classics to further your journey. And if you are not, perhaps it's time to start the process with these gems
What does leading a good life mean?
A life well-lived is one that truly makes you happy and not one where you live according to someone else’s or the world’s idea of happiness.
Messenger of the masters
In a conversation with Pradeep Krishnan, Ann Shaw reveals how her spiritual journey led to her awakening at the feet of her master, Sri Ramakant Maharaj, a direct disciple of Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj
Freedom from Mind
As Suma Varughese embarks on freeing herself of the mind, she finds her allies in her inner Spiritual Warrior and her Vast Higher Self