Channel-Surfing For Love
MEN 'S FOLIO Singapore|February 2020
In today’s culture, where love can be made or broken with the swipe of a finger, how does one make a true connection?
Jason Song

Some like it sideways, on the bed, in public places, or even sitting opposite a date. Whatever one’s preference, love finds a way. In case the reader gets the wrong idea, I meant dating – specifically online dating.

Online dating was not easy for my wife nor me. Coming from very traditional Christian families, online dating was something we hardly spoke about with our parents or our church friends.

Furthermore, the experience of having many possible dates offered in an application from the comfort of my phone was particularly unsettling. It made life more efficient – yet suddenly, life partners became more disposable than ever. Viewing of potential dates became akin to viewing items on a carousel – one could swipe, read a little description, see more photos, and if he was interested, send a wink.

The romantic experience of dating starts by being very consumeristic in nature, then a whole load of flirting by text follows. In all honesty, it takes a lot of effort, and when the other party finally decides to meet; it might turn out to be vastly different from what is expected. If one does meet a prospective date, then he starts experiencing the modern phenomenon of FOMO (fear of missing out) – that weird, lingering feeling that there is always someone better out there.

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