
“You’re pretty…for a Black girl,” they would say. “You’re cute…for a dark girl,” I’d be told.
Even though I was just a little kid at the time, I started to get the sense very early on that my skin color wasn’t celebrated as traditionally beautiful by other people.
Right now, because of the Black Lives Matter movement, many people are being awakened to the discrimination, injustice, and torment that Black people experience on a daily basis. This growing level of awareness is a good start, but at times I wonder if everyone understands just how deep the effects of racism go—and how it affects Black people not just based on the color of our skin, but on the specific tone of our skin, as well.
Flexin’ in my complexion
For me, it started back in grade school. My mom pulled me out of a school where I was one of only a few Black students (I was being bullied because of my race) and switched me to a predominantly Black school. Problem solved? Not exactly. Suddenly, I was being mocked and harassed not because I was a minority, but because of my darker skin tone.
That’s when I realized what colorism truly was: being belittled based on the specific shade of your skin.
This story is from the October/November 2020 edition of Girls' Life magazine.
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