We’re talking Saturday night scrolling, seeing an Insta story of your friends hosting a throwback Halloween movie night... and realizing that you weren’t included. Or having to eat your PB&J alone at the corner table during fourth-period lunch because nobody waved you over. Or not catching an invite to your lab partner’s pre-homecoming picture party. (Psst: We know you can’t see us right now, but our hands are in the air, too.)
Yep, being the odd girl out stinks. But rest assured, you’re not alone in feeling alone. Studies have found that nearly 40% of high school students often feel excluded. “I feel left out a lot, and I think it’s mostly because of social media,” says Lauren B., 15. “It seems like every time I open up my phone, there’s stuff going on without me.”
The fact that people are constantly nt updating their feeds has made it easier to discover missed social events. But it doesn’t matter whether you spot a soirée on Snapchat or simply hear about a weekend hangout during Monday morning homeroom—it’s a low feeling either way.
“As human beings, we are built for relationships,” explains Dr. Eli Parrot, an adolescent therapist in Nashville, Tenn. “To be left out means to be disconnected. And that can bring about hurt, decreased self-esteem and feelings of isolation.”
Of course, no one is going to be invited to every single social gathering on the planet (and, tbh, you probably wouldn’t want to attend all of them, either). And, yes, your besties are allowed to have other friends (and it’s OK if you aren’t included in each little meet-up).
Continue reading your story on the app
Continue reading your story in the magazine
Oh, nothing to see here, except a cheery checklist on using saturated shades that’ll totally transform your fall wardrobe.
Don't Be a Ghost
Any of these alternatives are better than leaving them on read...
Your Genuinely Helpful Guide to Situationships
More than a crush…but less than a relationship. Here’s how to navigate the in-between.
Can Your School Punish You For Your Posts?
We all have days when we get on social media and just vent. But here’s the very surprising truth about just how far some schools are going to control what students share on their feeds…and what you can do about it.
SQUASH THE SCARIES FOR GOOD
Stuck in a stress spiral? Can’t sleep? Don’t let the monsters get you down (or keep you up).
Hey, what about me?
Raise your hand if you’ve ever felt left out.
Help, my teacher is a nightmare!
TEACHER GETTING YOU DOWN? HERE’S HOW TO HANDLE THE SITCH BEFORE THEY SQUASH YOUR FRESH FALL VIBE.
Inside the Wonderfully Weird World of Mckenna Grace
Who ya gonna call? If you’re searching for one of this generation’s brightest talents, hit up Mckenna Grace.
THE TRUTH about TikTok nutrition
Your FYP might be feeding you false food facts.
Should I text him first?
We Fly: Cirrus Vision Jet G2+
Hot and high and connected
MORE SCHOOLS JOIN TENNESSEE STATE-APPLE TECH INITIATIVE
A dozen historically Black colleges and universities will join Tennessee State University’s national coding hub as community centers, the school said.
MAKING THE TURN
Six years after saying goodbye to the protour grind, Mardy Fish may be more active than ever—on the court, on the course, and helping combat a struggle anyone can encounter
FOOD FOR THOUGHT
Queens is known for its gastronomy as much as its tennis. Daniil Medvedev, equal parts sugar and spice, hopes to add a unique flavor to the borough as he vies for his first major
The pandemic halted tennis as an up-close experience— but is now giving way to pandemonium among crowds. As the pro game reopens this summer and fans gather again, we’re realizing what we’ve been missing for so long
Those Fall Feels
The end of summer may be bittersweet, but getting lost amid the backroads of NEW ENGLAND adds a silver—and golden—lining to the season change. Pack a few sweaters along with your tennis kit and prepare for leaf-peeping, scenic drives and delicious autumnal ingredients to pair with your forehands
The Tennis Conversation: Jenson Brooksby, a piano man
Billy Joel may be a New York City icon, but the fans in Queens should start getting to know this piano man
The Inner Game
A study of a champion still struggling to feel like one.
You probably know about the cosmetic benefits of Botox and its use in antiaging protocols, but research published in Current Sports Medicine reported that it also may be an effective treatment for sports injuries such as plantar fasciitis, compartment syndrome and tennis elbow.
The Tennis Conversation
HE INSPIRED THE NAME OF TENNIS MOST FAMOUS HILL. NOW THIS BRIT IS CONNECTED TO WIMBLEDON IN A WHOLE NEW WAY