How To Find A Relationship?
ELLE Singapore|November 2016

Social media may have made it easier to snag a date, but has it made it harder to find a relationship? Michelle Bong Lejtenyi finds out.

Michelle Bong Lejtenyi

Swipe, tap, scroll — these simple actions have become part of our daily lives. With the advent of apps jostling for space on our smartphone screens, we’re doing just about everything online, from shopping and making restaurant reservations to, yes, searching for Mr Right.

Since Tinder was launched in 2012, online dating has become as normal as whipping out your phone in the middle of the supermarket to take a selfie. If swiping were an Olympic sport, we’d all be Joseph Schooling. Women can no longer complain about how difficult it is to meet men, since dating apps have opened the door to a whole new world. Suddenly, we have a virtual parade of men and a profusion of candidates to consider for coffee, dinner and beyond. Hmmm, that’s a good thing, right?

SIGN OF THE TIMES

Not necessarily. Too much of a good thing can hurt. More available options are a cause for celebration, but they can also give rise to promiscuity, infidelity and superficial engagement.

Violet Lim, founder of dating agency Lunch Actually, says today’s social connectivity has made dating a daunting experience. This is based on the results of a Lunch Actually Academy commissioned survey in July this year that was conducted among more than 700 singles aged between 26 and 40.

“Most said they found it challenging to proceed further from a first date,” says Lim. Some reasons cited for today’s dating challenges include “guys have no game”, “all the good men or women are taken”, “I haven’t met anyone I’d like to be in a relationship with” and “singles have different values now”, a subtle jab at how hook-ups became rampant.

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