Why Is Oral Sex Something Only Older Men Do?
Cosmopolitan - South Africa|January-February 2020
A trend we would all very much like to stop, please and thank you
Taylor Andrews

Sound the alarms, fam. Only 35% of hetero Millennial men are frequently going down on their partners, according to recent research.

This. Is. A. Travesty. Because unless you’re among the small crew of women who can get off from penetration alone (#Jealous), you likely need some mouth play in order to get yours. But apparently, that’s a lot to ask of dudes?

Especially younger ones: an exclusive new poll by COSMO and SKYN Condoms found that some men aren’t even attempting oral sex until later in life. Fourteen percent of 18- to 22-year-olds said they ‘don’t think it’s necessary’. And nearly 50% of 18- to 27-year-olds are more comfortable having sex than they are giving oral (compared to 32% of 28- to 32-yearolds). Here’s what’s up with guys not going down.

MEET CUNNILINGUS’S ENEMIES…

There are at least three big ones. The first, you can probs guess: sex ed in South Africa sucks. ‘[In the US] our culture is sex-phobic, steeped in female sexual disempowerment, and doesn’t provide accurate sex education,’ says sex and intimacy expert Chris Donaghue. Students are lucky if they’re taught how to put on a condom; it’s a pipe dream to hope they’d also learn that oral sex can feel amazing to the female anatomy.

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