KUBBRA SAIT, Actor
“I’ll share a secret with you... I am not religious. Never have been! But that has never stopped me from bowing my head at any place of worship. I find it immensely fulfilling to surrender to the invisible power that exists, and to sync with the energy that numerous people believe in. It also, somehow, paralyses me from asking for anything. I just start mumbling a series of ‘Thank yous’. I can never be grateful enough for all that I have—it is so much more than I could have imagined. The reason I am telling you this is because we are all, at some level, haunted by the power of the unknown, especially in the current times. We have long believed that if we don’t reach the ‘finish line’, we will be done for in the larger scheme of things. Honestly, no-one had a clue about why or where we were running to. We just were.
But here’s the thing: we all have wishes and dreams, and it is the hope of attainting them that keeps us going. I have a few, too. A few for this world to be a better place for women. Other than the most pressing ones, like equality and empowerment, there are some that, in the race of life, we often overlook, or underestimate. But these are just as crucial as well...
Slowing Down the Pace
We don’t need to be everywhere, or be everything that others want us to be. Let’s live. Breathe. Experience each moment for what it is. And women, no, your body clock isn’t ticking. You don’t need to be married or have children at a certain age. We aren’t a to-do list. We are human beings, with choices. So let’s enjoy the journey of life as it is, and make our own choices along the way.
A few months ago, I felt a vacuum inside me when I heard about the sad demise of Sushant Singh Rajput and Chadwick Boseman. The deaths were unrelated, but they made me mull over the fragility and strength of the human mind. We never know the turmoil another person is going through. So, I wish for the world to never give up on being kind, to all.
No More Mirrors On the Wall
Enough of the comparisons! Enough of the campaigns around who is prettier, stronger, happier, more successful. The acceptance of ourselves—no matter who we are or what we look like—is important. It is what makes us, us. So screw the template for the perfect woman! In my opinion, perfect is boring, anyway. Let’s learn to celebrate each other, be gracious, and uplift others as well as ourselves.
I love the way cats command their way into love. It is how I’d like to see women, too. We must learn to be the centre of attention—no need to be conscious or wonder what anyone thinks of us. Let’s ask for love when we want it. (And also laze about, endlessly stare at birds in the sky, even be hairy and fluffy...all just like cats!)
Check the Cheque
Don’t look at me differently just because I have boobs and menstruate. I can still do all that a man can. Many men have assumed the world was constructed by their gender, over generations. Good on them. But women have supported them in the best ways. I am not here to topple the system, I am here to be a part of it—it was always ours, too. Let’s thrive and excel together. Please stop telling me things like, ‘You can’t even drive, how can you run a company?’. I choose to be who I am. And, I choose to ask you to check the cheque. Do the numbers dance with the balance?!
In conclusion, I think the world doesn’t need to be half as complicated as we make it to be. Let’s simplify, love, and care.”
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