Commitment phobia might be masking deep personal issues. Hemchhaya De lists down ways through which you can help your man overcome the fear.
Priya Pandey* labels commitment a “dirty word” particularly in the online dating landscape. The 29-year-old software engineer, based in Noida, narrates her swipe-right experiences, and states that she notices a pattern in her meetings. “This has happened several times now—I meet someone online, the man shows tremendous interest, I go with the flow and then, suddenly, one day, he says that things are getting too intense and he doesn’t want to commit. I end up questioning myself, ‘Is something wrong with me? or, am I just attracting the wrong kind of men?’”
In Pandey’s case, the men have been honest; and made it amply clear that commitment is indeed an issue for them. However, PR consultant Seema Das* continues to have no clue why her former partner of five years severed ties with her without an explanation. “He seemed interested in committing, and wooed me fiercely, but when I finally wanted to have a serious discussion on whether we could actually consider settling down, he dumped me unceremoniously,” says the Mumbai-based 32-year-old.
Unfortunately, both scenarios are all too familiar to scores of women who have borne the brunt of men distancing themselves at the mention of commitment. Undoubtedly, it’s painful and can scar one for life. Now, how does one deal with such situations? Let our guide help you.
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This story is from the July 24, 2019 edition of Femina.
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