Even if you’re having great sex, there’s always room for improvement. Eliminate these blunders, and set yourself up to have a good time between the sheets.
You may perform like a goddess in the bedroom for the most part, but every now and then, even the best can slip up, if preoccupied while having sex. From mundane and common errors to the more serious and intense ones, these sex mistakes are best avoided when you’re in the midst of a passionate session!
Not communicating enough
Your partner isn’t clairvoyant, and it is unfair to expect him to know every little detail when it comes to pleasuring you in bed. “While it is natural to expect your partner to know what it takes to push the right buttons, most women set themselves up for disappointment by not explicitly pointing out if something is bothering them,
or expressing what is needed to turn them on. If you need to spend more time on foreplay, gently indicate it. If you’re uncomfortable, say it. Your partner, too, would like you to experience lovemaking in the best way possible,” says sexologist Dr Santanam Jagannathan.
Being distracted by your phone
We can’t tell you how important this is! While the urge to keep checking smartphones and tablets all day long has driven all sense of what is polite out of most people’s minds, it is worse if you do it when you’re in bed with your partner. “Making love is an intimate act, and when you extricate yourself from it to check what’s going on with other aspects of your life and the outside world, you’re taking away from the intimacy. If you have something pressing to tend to, make it a point to attend to it before or after sex. If there is an urgent need to communicate with anyone, don’t take or make any phone calls. Wait until you are done. It is hurtful to ignore someone who’s naked with you in bed, and giving you his 100 per cent, while you chatter away with someone else who’s invading the moment,” says psychologist Manjula MK, who is affiliated with several NGOs.
This story is from the December 24,2018 edition of Femina.
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