When I was 26 I broke up with a longterm partner, got an ill-advised facial piercing and changed careers – all in the space of a month. What I learnt during those four weeks is that life is like a cake: you can’t unbake it if you don’t like the flavour. Sometimes you need to chuck the entire thing in the bin and start again from scratch. It’s harder that way, but who wants to spend the rest of their life eating cupcakes when really they wanted lamingtons?
Change is hard. Change is scary. Change is a tedious administrative nightmare. Unfortunately, change is also critical to our continued happiness as humans. Even if we can’t bring ourselves to embrace change, we shouldn’t avoid it at all costs.
But what about life-altering changes? How do you make the leap into unknown waters – whether it’s swopping jobs, moving to the other side of the world or even leaving your marriage?
We spoke to experts and people who’ve made major life changes to get the lowdown.
LISTEN TO YOUR GUT
Claudia Garland, a 30-year-old teacher, was wedding-dress shopping with her mother at the beginning of last year when she broke down.
“My mom looked at me in the shop and said, ‘You seem so unhappy’.”
Claudia admitted she’d been having doubts about the wedding.
“I’d been having panic attacks, and at that moment I decided it was best not to go ahead with it,” she recalls.
She went home that evening and told her fiancé the wedding was off.
This story is from the 23 January 2020 edition of Drum English.
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આદત બદલો.. ચિંતા આવતી અટકી જશે
ડૉ. પરેશ શાહ: લોકો સાથે દુઃખ-દર્દ વહેંચો.
చంఘీజ్ ఖాన్పై మనసు పారేసుకున్న బాలయ్య
నందమూరి నటసింహం బాలకృష్ణ నటించిన వీరసింహారెడ్డి ప్రీ రిలీజ్ ఈవెంట్ గ్రాండ్ సక్సెసైంది. ఈ ప్రీరిలీజ్ వేదికపై బాలకృష్ణ తదుపరి నటించే ఓ మూడు సినిమాలపై చాలా వరకూ క్లారిటీ వచ్చేసింది.
આવનાર વર્ષમાં બદલો સ્વાસ્થ્ય ટેવો અને લાવો તમારી અંદર સકારાત્મક ફેરફારો
સ્વસ્થ એ જીવનનું સૌથી મહત્વપૂર્ણ પાસું છે જેના પર ધ્યાન આપવું જોઇએ. પરંતુ પોતાની ટેવને વળગી રહેવું અને આવનાર વર્ષ માટે તંદુરસ્ત ટેવને બદલવા માટે સમર્પણ કે ડેડીકેશનની જરૂર રહે છે જે તમારી માનસિકતાને બદલશે. વર્ષના અંતમાં જો તમે જાણતા ન હો તો જાણો થોડીક એવી આદતો જેને તમે આવનારા વર્ષમાં અપનાવીને, તમે સુખી, તંદુરસ્ત જીવન જીવવામાં મદદ મળશે.
அடுத்த சில மாதங்களில் அரசாங்கத்தின் பொறிமுறையில் மாற்றம்
நாட்டின் பொருளாதாரத்தை பலப்படுத்தவும், வர்த்தக செயற்பாடுகளை முன்னெடுக்கவும் நாட்டின் வங்கிக்கட்டமைப்பை பலப்படுத்த வேண்டியுள்ளது.