Wrapped up in LOVE
Bona|February 2020
We love celebrating #BONALove and talking to diverse couples about their stories and how they are making it work. Our five couples give us a glimpse into their special and unique journeys.
Fundiswa Nkwanyana & Gugulethu Mhlungu.

Senzo “Kwesta” Vilakazi (31) and Yolanda (29) tied the knot in 2018 after dating for over 8 years. The rapper recently started sharing their love story through his music, and it’s been an amazing ride. The parents of seven-year-old Khai opened up to us a bit more.

FIRST IMPRESSIONS

Yolanda: We met in 2010 on the set of his music video where I was working as a video vixen. Initially, I was not feeling him because he was busy cracking jokes that I didn’t find amusing. But, after seeing how hard he was trying to get my attention, I decided to give him a chance.

Kwesta: I’m an awkward person, so I was making jokes because I was nervous about shooting the music video. I thought I was funny, and when she resisted my charm, I became intrigued and wanted to get to know her even more. We kept in touch afterwards, and as they say – the rest is history.

LOVE LIVES HERE

Yolanda: I love that he’s humble and respectful even though he’s a superstar. I felt most loved by him when I fell pregnant. I was scared and nervous because a child was not yet part of our plans. But, when I told him, he promised to love and support me, and this is when I knew that he truly loved me. I’m happy that he kept his word and continues to be a loving father and husband.

Kwesta: I knew that I was in love when I couldn’t go a day without talking to her. When she told me that she was pregnant, I used that opportunity to show her that I’m the man for her. Even though I wasn’t ready to be a father, I made sure that she felt loved and supported. I’ve always wanted to do right by her, and when I was ready for marriage, I spoke to my uncles to ask her family for her hand in marriage.

LESSONS LEARNT

Yolanda: We communicate differently. I talk about everything in depth, and my husband prefers to walk away from an argument. This is not easy, and we are learning to understand our communication styles and meet each other half away.

Kwesta: I’ve learnt that arguments are a difference in opinion, and we have to talk our issues through. I’m also learning to not walk away from conversations that make me feel uncomfortable, but rather engage and work on finding the solution.

HAPPILY EVER AFTER

Yolanda: Our wedding day was one of the happiest days of my life, and I look forward to spending the rest of my life with him. I also love that even though he’s not a romantic, he writes love songs about me – this makes me feel special.

Kwesta: I’m happy to have found someone who understands how the entertainment industry works, and is not affected by it. We live a simple and relaxed life; often choosing to stay indoors as a family. Our wedding day was special, and I’m looking forward to the rest of our lives together.

Salamina (36) and Tshepo “Howza” Mosese (36) met in 2006, and have been married for 11 years. They have a daughter and are expecting their second child.

FIRST IMPRESSIONS

Salamina: We met on the set of Backstage when Tshepo joined to play my student; I was his drama lecturer on the show. At that time, I had just come out of a relationship, and wasn’t looking. Also, I‘ve always said that I wouldn’t date a musician, so he wasn’t even an option. But, I saw how meticulous and commmitted he was with his work, and we just clicked from the moment we spoke. I knew then that we’d always be in each other’s lives, but at the time I thought it would only be as really good friends.

Howza: I had seen and been in love with her years before we met in real life. I was 16 years old and in grade 10 when I saw her on TV for the very first time, and I was so impressed. She was speaking in vernacular, and I was struck by how genuine she seemed. I told my mom that I was watching my future wife. It sounds weird, but I knew then. When we finally met, I realised that she was exactly as I had imagined her to be.

LOVE LIVES HERE

Salamina: We were engaged for a year before getting married. During this time, we built a solid relationship based on friendship and mutual respect. We made sure that we got to know each other. I love that no matter what has happened, we’ve remained friends. We had the tough conversation about the entertainment industry, being freelancers and his groupies early on; we were open and honest from the start.

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