Fear not, breakups can turn out to be blessings in disguise

More than the pain of parting, it’s the fear of parting that stops us from doing so. We're fearful of the sudden void that parting leaves behind

- SUMIT PAUL

Recently in Mumbai, one 24-yr-old man, Sonu Barai, chased and fatally stabbed his 23-yr-old former girlfriend, Manisha Yadav, and committed suicide by slitting his throat (‘Suspecting affair, man stabs ex-GF, kills self? FPJ, Oct 25). He suspected that his girlfriend was seeing someone else.

They had broken up a few days before the gory incident. Theirs was a decade-long relationship. The guy was seething with anger that his girlfriend jilted him. So, he took a drastic step. Alas, the breakup destroyed two young lives. Why dont we understand that breakups in a relationship are like bends in the river? It’s nature's way to put brakes on a relationship before it worsens. In other words, a breakup is a blessing in disguise. It's a hint from the universe and an insinuation from destiny.

Everything in life has a purpose. Nothing happens without a reason. A breakup also has a meaning, albeit hidden. It teaches people deeper lessons of life and relationships. At the same time, when we break off with someone, however close he/she may have been, we're again open to forging new bonds.