I can't be mother to his 'love child'

MY husband is insisting we raise his secret love child as our own.

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The mother - his ex-mistress - can’t cope. She's moving abroad to live with another man she’s met online.

The child is in nursery school and well settled in our neighbourhood.

My husband says it would be a crime to deprive the girl of everything she knows. Besides, he wants her around to love and look after.

That's all very noble, but what about me? My children (17 and 18) from my first marriage are about to leave home.

I thought this was my time. I thought we were going to go on fabulous sexy holidays.

I have my hobbies, friends and volunteering to keep me busy. I live a rich and varied life. I'm not interested in starting all over again, especially when I've never met the child and she isn't even related to me.