Parents lie to kids all the time, but they should think twice first

Before lying becomes a habit, it's worth dwelling upon the reasons for doing so and considering whether a different approach would work better.

- Rebecca Brown

Parents frequently lie to their children. "No, you can't have any chocolate - it's all gone," when there's a jumbo bar of Dairy Milk in the cupboard. "No, you can't have my phone to watch YouTube - the battery's flat," when it's at a solid 65 per cent.

Lies like these make parents' lives easier, particularly so when the children are small. Lying might also be thought to be in kids' own interests. For instance, young children get told that eating carrots will help them to see in the dark.

Leveraging the promise of superpowers might help children develop habits that will serve them well in the longer term. Similarly, lies might be told to protect children from what might be distressing truths. Communicating about death or serious illness with young people can be challenging, and it may be tempting to distort reality in order to avoid upsetting them.

But before lying becomes a habit, it's worth dwelling upon the reasons for doing so - and considering whether a different approach would be better.

TYPES OF LIES

Roughly, people lie when they say things they believe to be false with the aim of deceiving others.

Philosophers have discussed various definitions of lying in order to develop a definition that captures all and only those cases which we think really are instances of lying. For example, we want our definition of lying to exclude jokes or metaphors or some cases of exaggeration ("it's raining cats and dogs", "I'm so hungry I could eat a horse").