This may shock you, but it’s not only people in unhappy relationships who stray. Throughout my career, I’ve talked to many newly dating, engaged, or married young women who describe their unions as healthy, happy, and free of major issues. And yet, they have been physically or emotionally unfaithful.
Perhaps you are one of them, and you are currently grappling with why you cheated. In most cases, I’ve found that “I was drunk” or “My mate wasn’t paying enough attention to me at the party” are just excuses that haven’t been deeply thought out. Usually, there is a more powerful and personal motive.
See if any of these four common reasons resonates with you—and if you can start moving on from your indiscretion in a constructive way.
YOU MISS THE EARLY AFFIRMATION
In the beginning of your relationship, it’s likely your significant other pursued you. You were who they wanted and went after. Although it’s a very un-PC thing to say, for some women, this is really exciting. Being courted can make you feel powerful, confident, validated, and beautiful.
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