When water is falling with a lot of force, you cannot stand underneath it, you will lose your head. So, you need to control the tap. If you open the tap with full force and keep an empty bottle under it, the bottle will remain empty. You have to open the tap only so much that the bottle gets filled. Similarly, when you love somebody unconditionally, do not express it all at once. They will run away.
In the Bhagavad-Gita there is a saying, ‘Samah Shatrau Cha Mitre Cha Thathaa Maanaapamaana-yoho’. (He who is the same to foe and friend and also in honor and dishonor, who is the same in cold and heat, in pleasure and pain, is free from attachment)
How does a yogi (spiritual seeker) deal with friends and enemies? Whether friend or enemy, the yogi puts them all in one basket and keeps a equanimous state of mind. This is because you never know when a friend will become an enemy, and when an enemy will become a very good friend. This is a fact.
Our whole life works on some strange karma, some strange laws of nature. So just rely on your skills, this is what self-reliance means. And do not wish bad things for anybody. Often, when someone hates somebody they start cursing him or her. Do not curse anybody, come what may. At the most, we must wish for them to have a good mind, “Let their intellect become alright!”
In Hindi, we say, ‘Bhagwan, inko sadbuddhi do’ (Oh God, bless them w