How To Find Love Again After Divorce
The Malaysian Women\'s Weekly|July 2018

The end of a marriage doesn’t mean you’ll never find love again. Here’s how to get back in the dating game, and piece your new love life back together

Balvinder Sandhu
How To Find Love Again After Divorce

It might seem tough to find love after a marriage breakdown, especially if you have had to deal with trust issues. And if you have children, there are other factors to take into consideration, too, such as their feelings about the situation and how any potential new partner feels about kids.

It’s not uncommon to never want to be in a relationship again, after going through a divorce. However, there are also many women who are still looking out for love, and want to return to the dating scene. Follow these dos and don’ts from our experts for a smoother ride towards a happy new relationship.

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Stay Calm 

One mistake women make after a breakup is finding a replacement for their ex and settling for the next available man. Don’t panic; there’s no need to rush into anything so try to stay calm.

“A lot of divorced women express anxiety and fear about dating again, especially in their late 30s, 40s or 50s. They may have subscribed to the notion that they have passed their prime,” says Anisa Hassan, Founder and CEO of Joompa, an online dating service for Muslim singles in Southeast Asia. She was also formerly the managing director of It’s Just Lunch Asia.

“As such, they give the impression that they have no time to waste and would want to settle down quickly with the next person who shows some interest in them. When men feel your anxiety, they will head for the opposite direction in double-quick time.”

Be Confident 

You shouldn’t just stay calm: you should also be confident. After all, confidence is a very sexy trait and it’ll pique the interest of more men, therefore widening your dating pool.

This story is from the July 2018 edition of The Malaysian Women\'s Weekly.

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