21st Century Stress & How To Handle It

From work and money worries to relationship woes, we all suffer stress in our daily lives. Here, we look at your real-life concerns and suggest ways to manage them.

Stress: For most of us, it’s become part and parcel of daily life. We’ve got too much to do, not enough time and too many responsibilities. About one in four of us admit to being stressed, with many of us feeling it’s taking a toll on our mental and physical health. We asked the experts for their advice on how to manage some of the stressful situations that life can throw at you.

“I love my husband, kids and my job. But I feel pulled in too many directions and that I never do anything well enough.”

You initially think, “l can do this: I’m capable”; and over time you get worn down and your self-talk becomes critical – “I should be able to do this... I should be able to cope.” Recognise your personal signs of stress – perhaps you eat more, forget things or yell at the kids, suggests Dr Mandy Deeks, a psychologist at Jean Hailes for Women’s Health.

“Remind yourself: ‘I’m doing okay, I’ve taken on a bit much and need to go back to basics’. Make time each day to do something for yourself – go for a walk, meet friends for coffee or soak in the bath. Take care of yourself so you have the physical and emotional energy to take care of the people you love.”

“I’m swamped by debt, and monthly bills are making me sick with worry.”

Know that you’re not alone: Financial pressures are one of the most common causes of stress. See a financial adviser who can help you put a budget together – many community centres offer free debt counselling. Or find a financial planner who you feel understands your money worries.