We have all heard words of wisdom designed to guarantee a happy and enduring relationship.
How long have you lived by these myths?
We have all heard words of wisdom designed to guarantee a happy and enduring relationship. Whether consciously or not, you have likely taken relationship advice from romantic movies, love songs or even your mum. But as it turns out, some of the old adages are absolute nonsense. Here are five relationship tips you should definitely think twice about.
MYTH
YOU SHOULD NEVER GO TO BED ANGRY
Arguing is healthy because it allows you to voice your opinions and shows that you care enough to want to resolve issues, says relationship expert Sue Yorston.
Although, it is said that you should never go to bed angry, there are situations where it is not worth trying to resolve things on the spot. For example, if you have a fight on the way home from a party, when both of you are tired or one of you has been drinking, it is not a good idea to try to sort it out then, she advises.
THE SMARTER WAY
It is perfectly fine to call a time-out on an argument.
In the heat of a quarrel, you may find yourself going off-topic by raising past resentments or unrelated issues. You may have more clarity and less blind anger if you postpone a fight, so going to sleep angry is sometimes the smarter option, providing you do not stew on it for days.
You are much more likely to reach a positive resolution if you wait for a calmer and quieter time that is less fraught with emotions, says Yorston. “You can raise your concerns and let your partner know that you want to discuss your feelings at a later time,” she advises.
MYTH
LOVE CONQUERS ALL
This story is from the April 2017 edition of The Malaysian Women\'s Weekly.
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