No doubt about it: fast, hot, rip-your-clothes-off sex can add plenty of excitement to a relationship. But when it comes to overall coupled-up bliss, slow, sweet, sensual nights in bed have the biggest impact. These sexperiences capitalise on the power of bonding hormones to make you both feel more physically and emotionally intertwined.
Try the following (scientifically proven!) moves to max out on loveydovey feelings.
HAVE A TANTRIC KISS
During positions in which you’re face-to-face, bring your lips in super close so that you’re almost (but not quite) kissing, then inhale when your partner exhales. “The sensation that you’re almost breathing for each other is extremely potent and quite erotic,” says US-based tantra educator Xanet Pailet, author of Living An Orgasmic Life.
USE YOUR WORDS
Speaking up as the action intensifies can boost the happy chemicals serotonin and dopamine in your brain, says US-based sex and relationship therapist and boardcertified psychiatrist Dion Metzger, MD. Here are three intimate-AF ways to express yourself.
1. Whisper Sweet Things Murmuring to bae prompts an automatic bodily response that can feel like arousing tingling down their neck. Use the word you (as in, ‘You turn me on so much’) to let your SO know you’re zoned in on them, says US-based relationship expert Dori Gatter, PsyD. Bonus: research