We're Not Fine, And We Do Care
The Oprah Magazine|July 2017

Let’s stop pretending we don’t have opinions and raise our voices.

We're Not Fine, And We Do Care

A FRIEND RECENTLY told me she was feeling lost. Her youngest child had just left for college, and with him had gone her meaning and purpose. The night before, her husband had asked her, “Honey, now that you can do whatever you want with your life, what do you want to do?” She didn’t know what to say. She just stared at him, thinking, I don’t know what I want for dinner—forget about what to do with my life. I have no idea. How can I even start to figure it out?

When someone invites me to think about what I want, I try to pause, take a moment to be still, and check in with my inner self until a kind of knowing rises and points the way.

Some call that voice intuition; others say it’s God, or wisdom. One person I know refers to the voice as Sebastian. The point is, what we call it doesn’t matter; what’s important is that we hear it.

This story is from the July 2017 edition of The Oprah Magazine.

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